Article 33: The Unhealthy Competition

Helping couples and families solve their differences has been an interesting addition to my energy healing and shamanic practice.

I did not seek it out, they are finding me.

I have quickly come to learn that an unhealthy need to compete with each other seems to be a common thread between each set of clients.

At least one of them develops an obsessive desire to be, "right." 

They are not aware that they are creating a very unhealthy competition with the people they should be loving and supporting towards.

It drives the other person(s) to either become competitive in return, or to wish to not be in their presence. It evokes the fight, or flight response.

If not corrected, it becomes habitual.

I am showing them that it is better to be loved than to be right.

In order for this transformation to occur, I teach them how to come from the heart and not the head. 

It is something to behold when the light goes on and they feel the love they are creating.

They learn the value of trading the hollow victory of the ego, for the deep reward of being loved and respected by their family members or mate.

The ego is such a strange beast. It is a tangled web to unfold. It is never satisfied.

The heart is as simple as can be. It does not know the meaning of the word, "compete."

I love helping people figure their stuff out...Best job in the world.